So I've realized...I tell Rilynn "Good Girl!" a lot; probably more than I should. Not that I think it's horrible to say that phrase, but after talking with a few gals from my care group and my mom, I think it might be good to limit how much I say it.
But, you ask, what do you say to encourage???
I shall tell you! My mom mentioned this and I think it's a spectacular idea! If Ri is doing a good job eating her meal, instead of saying "oh what a good girl!" I can say, "oh what a good eater!"
If Ri puts her toy in the toy box when I ask her, instead of saying, "good girl!" I can say "what a good helper!"
In other words, I'm going to try to focus more on praising the characteristic she is exhibiting. After all, "no one does good, not even one" - Romans 3:12b And ultimately, I don't want her to think she's a "good girl"; but a young child in need of a Savior.
May God grant me grace...I'm sure I'll need it!! :)
Yesterday at breakfast we had pancakes and were talking about them and Ri said "pancake" - seriously! At first I wasn't really sure but then Septtro said he heard the same thing!
Then at dinner last night, she was holding her hands in the air and so my dad said "praise Jesus!" and she said it back! Of course she wouldn't say it again though. And she's been saying "uh oh" for a couple weeks.
It might be too early to tell but I think she might be a chatter box. :)
So I did it. I ordered cloth diapers. I really considered doing it before Ri was born - read here. The main reason I didn't do it when Ri was born was because I was freaked out to add anything else new to the mix. And I have and still do get good deals on disposable diapers. But I remain intrigued. There hasn't been a person who uses cloth diapers that I've spoken to that doesn't love it.
Cloth diapering is NOT like it used to be "back in the day". What I'm most excited about, is there are actually biodegradable disposable inserts you can put inside the cloth diaper (on top, basically) that will be a HUGE help when I'm out running errands or when Ri is in nursery, etc. They're MUCH cheaper than a disposable diaper would be and can even be reused a few times and thrown in the wash if they just get wet, not dirty. How cool is that?
I ordered several diapers from www.diaperjunction.com to do their 30 day diaper trial. It's the longest trial I found and I was able to choose what I wanted. I was able to get 10 diapers, a wet bag, and disposable inserts for under $200 (they had a promotional to get a free diaper with $75 purchase and I found a $5 off coupon code to use). What I don't like, I send back! Of course, one of the best things about this is that I can figure out a system I like and be ready to use it with subsequent babies, which will definitely save money.
My order shipped out today. I can't wait to try it out! And I REALLY can't wait to see Ri in the cute colors and prints!! The cow one pictured is one I ordered. They also had a REALLY cute pink hibiscus flower print one but they were out of stock. :(
One thing I have definitely learned is there is A LOT to learn about cloth diapering. I've done A LOT of research and feel like there's still a lot I don't know. But I feel like the best way to learn is to do right? I'll keep you posted!!
Ri's birthday was Saturday and EVERYBODY was here to celebrate!! It was so nice to have everyone together. Brynnen and Rilynn got to play together often. A few things about this video:
1. We need to work more on Ri's desire to swat others in the face
2. I hope in the future the girls will be ale to play together nicely
3. For some reason, Ri got her feelings hurt at the end of the video and her eyes started tearing up. This was very difficult for her Daddy to witness. :) But I love how much he cares about her!
I got this book free in exchange for a review from www.booksneeze.com. Anyway, so here goes:
This is a book that has a simple rhyme on each page of several elements of Christmas. I love that the pages are baby friendly. Considering Ri is only a year old, she would tear normal pages. They're thicker and more cardboard-like. The outside of the book was kinda puffy, making even more for a baby-friendly book. Ri really loved turning the pages herself. :)
Each page goes over one element of Christmas - angels, Jesus, Mary, etc. It's really a very cute book and very simple, rhyming words. I just kinda wish that the book went into a little more detail. But I guess for a smaller child, this is really all they need.
Overall, it was a very cute book. The illustrations were really neat - like a sketch almost. I think we will probably bring this book out at Christmas. Who knows, maybe it will become a favorite?!
There was once a time when I wondered when Rilynn was actually being disobedient and knowing exactly what she was doing. I mean, being born sinful I knew I wouldn't have to teach her to be defiant or disobey. But once I saw this face, it was pretty clear. If this isn't the face of intent, I don't know what is!
*By the way, this was after she had been told "no" by Daddy and she was reaching for what she wanted anyway.*
We are working on pointing her towards obedience and a desire to seek and please the Lord...I know it's a long road but we conitnually pray for God's wisdom in this area.
This was at my parent's house this past Friday. My mom has us all over for dinner once a week. Yes, very nice!! :)
Emmory doesn't care for green beans anymore. So he was glad to feed them to Ri when they were put on his tray. And Ri was content to be fed like a dainty lil bird.
I think it's cute how Mur opens his mouth when Ri does as he's feeding her. How many times have I caught myself doing that when feeding Rilynn? I guess that's just a natural reaction that starts very early!
Yesterday was the beginning of the end for these pox I think. No new ones have popped up and all the others are beginning to dry out and scab over. Yay!
Can I tell you how incredibly thankful I am to the Lord that through all of this, Ri was still her happy self? Well, I'm incredibly thankful! :)
So Friday morning when I changed Ri's diaper, she had several red bumps. I thought they were bug bites but then more appeared. Then they appeared on her face, scalp, and neck and have slowly made their way to her back, chest, hands, legs, etc.
We went to the doctor this morning after I descibed it over the phone and they asked that I bring her into the office. The nurse practitioner and two doctors looked at her, examined the spots, and asked questions. The verdict: "Well we're not really sure exactly what it is". Phhh...great. They think it could be chicken pox but they're not certain because it didn't start on her trunk like it normally does but then again, they said chicken pox can exhibit itself in various ways with children so young. A few of the bumps did have clear fluid in them but I can't say for sure all of them did.
She had a very low grade fever for, literally, only hours yesterday but that's it. She's sleeping normal and just as happy and active as always. Except the appearance of the bumps, you'd never know anything was even wrong.
I personally think it is chicken pox but I guess we'll never know for certain. I don't know of where she could have been exposed except for grocery stores or a few other stores we've been to the past couple weeks.
At least she's not acting like she's miserable. The doctor gave me a perscription for an antibiotic ointment but even the pharmacist said she'd hold off on it. (I think doctors like to send you out the door with at least some type of perscription just to cover any and all possibilities.) So for now, I'll just keep putting my trusty coconut oil on the bumps and periodically check her temperature.
Sweet baby girl...I hope they go away really soon!
I posted before about my struggle with time management. I need a routine, a schedule...but also flexibility. I wasn't quite sure how to balance the two without stressing myself out. So my dear friend from church, Rita, helped me out and this is what we came up with.
I have the flexibility to switch days if I need to or want to, which is nice, but I also have just a minimal amount of chores each day so I still have some structure without overwheming myself. I even have set days for visiting with others (which, like I said, could be rearranged if needed).
I'm pretty excited about using this. I will begin full force next week!
See this...this is the cake pan for Ri's personal birthday cake. My friend let me borrow it. It's about the size of two cupcakes worth of cake - perfect for a 1 year old I think. Ugh, there it is...1 year old. My baby will be 1 next month! 51 days!
How did this happen??! I feel like I'm just now getting used to the idea that I'm a mom...that I have a daughter...that I'm not playing "house".
I knew it'd happen sooner or later. No more putting her down and expecting she'll stay there. No more being unconcerned about Ri's surroundings. She is quickly moving from a baby to a toddler. It's more difficult but so much fun!
Ok so can you imagine me singing the title from Hootie and the Blowfish's song from way back? No? Another post, another time perhaps.
I have REALLY been struggling lately with managing my time. I think I like to make A LOT of excuses. Scratch that. I KNOW I like to make a lot of excuses. And then there's the guilt that comes with not accomplishing what I think I should have accomplished each day.
I have tried to-do lists. Those seem to stress me out more. Because then I seem to do something that's not on my list instead of what's actually on my list. You know, I pass by the dresser and it's full of dust and I decide it must be dusted immediately! Of course, I promtly add it to my list so I can have the joy of crossing something off my list...but then it just extends my to-do list for the day - making it impossible for me to accomplish all that I wish to; so I feel guilty, and in turn, I wanna give up all together. Septtro has told me to only do one thing - one simple thing - a day while I'm home with Ri. After that's done, I should feel free to just enjoy spending time with my sweet baby girl. But for some reason, I have a very hard time doing that. I mean, what counts as my "one thing"? Putting a few dishes away? Folding and putting away Rilynn's laundry? - wait, that would count as two things right? What about actually getting out of my pajamas? You see how my mind works? It's exhausting, really.
What I do know, is that my to-do list will never end. But I need to come up with a way to feel productive as a mom and wife, yet keep my sanity. One area that needs to improve GREATLY is my quiet time with the Lord. I know this. But why is it I can't seem to get consistent? My excuse that I am too busy with a baby is fading...she'll be 10 months tomorrow!
Ultimately, where is my satisfaction coming from? Obviously not from the Lord. My focus is obviously off. I see that. And I desperately wanna get focused.
I'm just being honest. And I'm open for suggestions.
Suka has had quite the adjustment in the past 9 months. She literally used to be our baby. She'd go everywhere with us.
I can remember people telling me that relationship would change once Ri got here. I didn't believe it. But it's true. It's like someone once said, "Once you have a baby, your dog becomes your dog."
Although she's no longer our baby, she's still a very important part of our family. Sometimes it's nice to have some Suka time. :)
I didn't realize the video didn't upload before. I have to do it from my cell phone and sometimes it doesn't upload properly.
Anyway, we went to Florida for a week to spend time with family. While we were there, Rilynn got to play with her cousin, Brynnen. Ri has always liked to scream - but Brynn wasn't too thrilled with how Ri was communicating. :)
We've been workin on sign language with Ri for a few months. Tonight, we kept working with her at the table and she really seemed to actually do (her own version of) the sign for "please"...too many times to really think it was all coincidence.
She doesn't do it until the very end of the video - we were working through what appeared to be "demanding" for a good bit . It's like she's scratching herself across her chest. I know it may seem so slight but the fact that she did it so many times tonight really makes me think she may actually be beginning to catch on!
So yeah...not to brag but I pretty much have the smartest baby ever.
I was tryin to catch Mur Mur doin his sign language for "please". But as soon as I turned the camera on, he turned into Mr. Cheeser. Love him!!
Whenever somebody has food, he will do his please sign so much you'd think he was going to rub a hole right in his shirt! It makes me laugh.
If you look closely, he also does the sign for "more". His is a little different that it's supposed to be. It's when he takes his pointer finger on one hand and hits his other hand open-palmed.
Ok, I don't think you understand how big of a deal this is for me That's right, me. Not Ri.
If you know me at all, you know I'm horrible with change. My mom is horrible with change. My grandmother is horrible with change. I guess you could say it runs in the family. Or maybe it's just a girl thing. Regardless, I am.
I blogged a while ago about how I hadn't given Ri any solids yet when she was 7 months old. Then when she turned 8 months, I thought, "Shoot, this is going so well let's go for 9 months!"
Then the other day, I was eating a fresh cucumber from our garden in front of Ri. She reached out for it. So I let her suck on it a lil bit. She made a funny face and that was the end.
A few days later, I let her taste the cucumber again. She never swallowed or chewed any of it, just tasted.
Then today, my mom and I were out to lunch and we had a salad with fruit in it and some bread. I like her taste the bread like I did the cucumber. Then my mom suggested I let her try a piece of a strawberry.
Instead of just letting her taste it once and taking it away, I actually held it there and let her explore it - both with her mouth and with her hands. And then, she actually swallowed a small piece. I'll be honest, all my mind could think was, "There goes her baby-ness - quick, get it outta her mouth before she grows up right before your eyes!" But she loved it! Every time tried to take it away, she'd grab my hand again.
Yes, she's growing up. She's getting bigger. And no, I can't "keep her stupid" (as my dad likes to say) forever. Oh how my heart wishes I could! Feeding times have become our time - just us. And as much as we struggled in the beginning, it's SO simple now. Honestly, I don't even really mind that she won't take a bottle (yes I've tried it in a sippy cup and she doesn't care for that either). I know that limits me as far as where I can go and for how long. But in the long run, it's such a small part of her life that she'll need me like she does now; and I guess that's part of the reason why I'm having a hard time making the transition.
This is just the beginning of the end. But I think I'm starting to be ok with that. Although I'm still not going to make solids a huge priority. After all, her main source of nutrients should be coming from me until she's at least a year old anyway. But perhaps now, every once and a while, I'll let her explore the fascinating world of solids...slowly, oh ever so gradually, but surely. She's growin up, and so is Mommy.
Last time I walked down this path, I was headed to the ER. We were camping at Lake Jocassee. I was pregnant with Peanut.
When I went to use the restroom, I thought I'd lost my baby. Our ER visit confirmed everything seemed to be fine. But a month later, we found out everything wasn't fine.
It's hard not to remember when I see certain things here...especially when I made a trip to that same bathroom. I avoided the same stall.
But then God is so gracious. As hard as that summer was two years ago; this summer, I have a sweet girl smiling and splashing in the water.
I'm thinking of you, Peanut...and lovin on your sister!
She's been doin this scream-type thing inside her mouth lately. It makes me laugh. I like to think she's imitating an elephant but I think it might just be random baby noises.
My car has a reminder beep when the seatbelt isn't fastened on the driver or passenger side seats. As much as I'd like to claim I was overly concerned about Suka's well-being, it just so happens she weighs enough to activate the reminder beep.
*For those of you who may be concerned, we were not in motion when this was taken.*
It's no secret. I coupon. Because I coupon, I am able to find things at a much cheaper price. However, what if I could save money AND clean with products that don't have crazy ingredients I can't pronounce? I'm interested...and I love this post:
**Don't miss out on the fabulous links at the end...lots of great info and recipes for homemade cleaners** I'm not saying you'll never see another Mr Clean product in my house (could I really get rid of ol faithful...aka Magic Eraser?!). I'm just sayin, if it's just as cost-effective and there's an added benefit for my family, why not? I'm not gonna go and throw out everything in my house I already have. I just plan to slowly change one item at a time.
I just read a blog about a young girl who went to be with Jesus a few days ago. She was abandoned in Serbia after her parents found out she had a heart condition. A couple from Texas adopted her.
I can't help but sit here in a puddle of tears and gratitude. My sweet baby is sleeping soundly in the next room, not in a hospital bed. Our days are spent reading and playing, not fighting to overcome illness.
Now experiencing the incredible love of a mother, my heart aches for mommies who see their children in pain, struggling to live, and even watch as they take their last breath.
Thankful doesn't quite sum up how I feel right now. And hopefully, in those moments I find myself ready to complain, I'll remember little girls like Chrissie.
I have a new favorite grocery store: Earth Fare! As many of you know, I'm very much into couponing and have been able to save a lot of money doing so. If stores don't take coupons (Aldi) or have a difficult coupon policy (Ingles), I don't shop there.
Recently, I started talking to a few women at my church (one who I told she needs to start a blog bc she's a wealth of great info...but she has 7 kids and no time for that so I decided I'd pass on the info she shares with me) who eat as organically as possible and have found ways to get good deals on healthier food. I mean, who doesn't wanna eat healthy foods? But I always figured it'd break the bank to do so I didn't even try. But after talking with them, I realized eating and living healthier was very doable. It all kinda started for me after Ri had a very common baby girl problem and the doctor prescribed a hormonal cream that was going to cost over $100. I knew there must be another alternative...possibly more natural and definitely cheaper. Turns out, there was - coconut oil! That stuff is great for a lot of things but I used it for Ri and still use it occasionally at diaper changes instead of the other well-known diaper creams...works great! I also use it on her thumb since she sucks it so much and it can get kinda raw...just a couple applications and it clears up!
I'm not, by any means, going to refuse to eat or drink anything that's not 100% certified organic or, as one lady so properly put it, "allow organic and natural things to become an idol". But if there are opportunites to eat healthier and live healthier, I'll take them!
If you have an Earth Fare near you, sign up to get their coupons via email - they're awesome...like buy organic ketchup for $1.50 and get 2 free handmade hamburger patties or buy $5 worth of items and get a free fresh pineapple. They're also currently doing a promotion to raid your pantry for unhealthy items and exchange them for healtheir choices for free - even if your item is opened and almost gone! They also have coupons in the store near the front sometimes. Their website also sometimes has additional coupons available. Just today, Septtro and I both got a free half wrap, chips, and soup, exchanged 2 bottles of salad dressing, cereal, and peanut butter for organic, and got 8 handmade black and blue hamburgers all for just over $10! You can print more than one copy of their coupon and have someone else use it (Septtro in my case) or go back to the store again before the sale ends.
Also, if you're interested in healthier living in general on a budget, check out these websites (I haven't been able to look at them all myself yet) :
www.kitchenstewardship.com
www.thenourishinggourmet.com
www.passionatehomemaking.com
www.keeperofthehome.org
One last website that's great for a lot of Mommy questions is (forum-type format): www.welltellme.com
If you are aware of any other ways to eat or live healthier - without breakin the bank - please let me know!
Ri has been saying this ALL day today - to her father's delight. :) She's said Momma over and over before but she's really starting to be more intentional about Dada.
A year ago today, we found out you were a girl! I knew it all along. :)
At first, I was really nervous about having a girl because I'm not very girly myself. I was unsure how I felt about the color pink invading my house; along with frills, bows, and baby dolls. But even before you came into this world, I began to transform. I began to embrace my own girly side even more (slightly, but more so than before...although I still think make-up is a pain in the hiny so still none for me most of the time).
Anyway, I just want you to know you are free to be girly; free to wear pink, free to play dress up, free to hate dirt, and yes, even free to do ballet if that's what your heart desires.
I love you sweet baby girl and I'm so very thankful to call you my daughter!
This is my first Mothers Day. Actually, I kinda feel like it's my second - Ri was just inside my tummy last year instead of outside.
I had a lot of emotions this morning...waking up to my handsome husband and beautiful daughter: daughter, I still can't believe I have a daughter. I still can't believe God chose me to be her mom. She's such a joy!
I am overwhelmed at God's goodness and grace. And I am so very thankful that His plan is perfect.
I look forward to many more Mothers Days...and Lord-willing, more children to celebrate.
I am still exclusively breastfeeding Rilynn. She just turned 7 months old. She doesn't seem to be in need of anything else right now (no waking up at night or crying after nursing) and I quite like the availability of how she gets her meals now. I guess I just picture starting solids as a constant cooking, mashing, blending, mixing of all these ingredients Septtro and I aren't eating and it stresses me out...big pain in the hiny. Although I'm well aware that I'm very good at blowing things way out of proportion. But then I started to feel guilty because I thought, "I'm holding her back!" The pediatricians all say start solids at 6 months. But part of me just doesn't get what's so magical about 6 months and solids. I mean, what if they're doing just fine with nursing still?
- having a baby is A LOT more sanctifying than I ever imagined in so many more ways than I ever imagined
- you can never have enough baby wipes in the diaper bag
- everybody has an opinion on how kids should be raised. I need to trust in God's sovereignty and the wisdom He gives me on decisions I make for my baby
- all babies are different
- babies are confusing
- Facebook, email, and blogs can be great for sharing Ri with friends and family...but also can take precious time away from what (or I should say, who) matters most
- Not everybody is as proud of Ri for rolling over as I am
- Mommy needs time to herself at least once a week
- emotions still linger long after the newborn stage
- once babies get to the grabby stage, give them a toy or something ELSE to grab during diaper changes
- even when I'm sitting right beside Ri, it's still possible for her to fall and bump her head
- I'm not in control...as much as I try to be
- being a stay-at-home mom isn't much like I imagined but there's nothing else I'd rather do
- ALWAYS plan for getting out of the house to take at least 10 minutes longer than expected
- I will probably cry when Ri turns a year old
- it's hard for me to feel connected at church and with God during this season of my life
- the mistakes I make as a parent are covered by God's grace
- being a parent is awesome....and there's much, much more to learn!
I am STILL trying to get my mobile blog back up and running from my new phone. Sometimes I really think these "smart phones" could be just a tad smarter.
I've been making my own baby wipes for about 5 months now (thanks to my cousin, Katie, for tellin me about it!) and I LOVE it! Not only do I use them for diaper changes, but also to wipe her off before bed if I don't get around to a bath or even as a nice, soft tissue for my delicate nose. I don't know why I didn't do this sooner! It really comes out to be A LOT cheaper than store-bought and I like that I know exactly what's in them. Here's how I make them:
I found a 2-pack of MainStay brand plastic containers at Walmart for about $3 to store them in (any air-tight container will work).
1. Cut a paper towel (no cheap ones - I like Viva and Brawny) roll in half with knife or tool of your choice
2. Mix 1 1/2 cups of water with 2 Tblsp baby wash and 1 Tblsp baby oil
3. Pour solution over paper towels
4. Let solution soak through (might want to flip container upsidedown for a few minutes)
5. Pull out cardboard piece from middle, pull wipes from middle and presto!
This past Wednesday, Ri finally figured out she's in control of making herself roll over - the connection has been made!
She hasn't been much interested in rolling over...before Wednesday it had been a couple weeks and before that it had been almost a month. She's yet to roll from her back to her tummy - it's always tummy to back (I think because she prefers her back). She'll go all the way to her side from her back, but not all the way.
Anyway, it seems her mobile days are soon approaching!
